My destiny as an English teacher

Frankly speaking, I've never thought of being a teacher. I've always wanted to be a lawyer but destiny has led me to be a teacher, specifically, an English teacher. Now, I'm on the way to be an English lecturer. In fact, I've just completed my Masters Degree in TESL and I'm going to do PhD really soon. Yeah, I know...How ironic is that for someone who has never had an intention to be a teacher before, right?

But when I looked back into my life history, everything has been written actually. I still remember how passionate I was about English (I still do now). It's all started when I saw my senior gave a speech in English during an assembly. She put me in awe.Since then, I told myself that I wanted to be as good as her. I was only 13 years old then. After that, when I was in Form 4, I'd been asked to teach English to my classmates by my teacher. Seeing how my classmates were able to understand and thankful to me for teaching them, it gave me a great self-satisfaction. That feeling continues until now. I guess that's why, I opted to drop my dream of being a lawyer and chose to teach English.

However, teaching is NOT as easy as it may seem...

After finishing my Bachelors Degree in TESL, I've worked as an associate instructor in an international English language centre. I taught an Intensive  English program to mostly international, male students. I loved teaching there but the pressure was too big to handle..I was stressed out..Non-teaching work sucked out my energy..Many students were so demanding..Some of them're really rude, had no respect and were very pushy. I must say that, I did lose my temper several times..Well, who could handle students who're yelling at your face,  forcing you to pass them and tagging you for a few days? The incidents did not only drive me angry and crazy but I was freaked out and scared of the students...

But that doesn't mean I didn't have good students. I did and they're sooooo amazing!They respect and appreciate me a lot, even after I stopped teaching them. I guess that's what makes me where I am now...IN LOVE IN TEACHING English!

A Teacher's Story - How to be a good teacher?

It's DIFFICULT to be a teacher. It's even MORE difficult to be a GOOD teacher.

I learned a lot from this story. It made me think, am I a good teacher? Have ever I misjudged my students? (Something to ponder...)

A Teacher's Story

True or not - who cares, How many times do we "misjudge" by appearance?

Her name was Mrs. Thompson. As she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children a lie. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. But that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.

Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he didn't play well with the other children. His clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. And Teddy could be unpleasant. It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.

At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise.

Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners...He is a joy to be around."

His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home is a struggle."

His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death had been hard on him. He tries to do his best, but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."

Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class."

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's. His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper that he got from a grocery bag. Mrs.Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents.

Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one quarter-full of perfume. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist.

Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mother used to."

After the children left she cried for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching reading, and writing, and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children.

Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's pets."

A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer the letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.

The story doesn't end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he'd met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit in the place at the wedding that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom.

Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. And she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together.

They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs.Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference."

Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you."

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Ugly

My colleague at work asked me to read this story. So, I read it..Believe it or not, I cried...A LOT!

Ugly

by: Author Unknown, Source Unknown

Everyone in the apartment complex I lived in knew who Ugly was. Ugly was the resident tomcat. Ugly loved three things in this world: fighting, eating garbage, and shall we say, love. The combination of these things combined with a life spent outside had their effect on Ugly. To start with, he had only one eye, and where the other should have been was a gaping hole. He was also missing his ear on the same side, his left foot has appeared to have been badly broken at one time, and had healed at an unnatural angle, making him look like he was always turning the corner. His tail has long age been lost, leaving only the smallest stub, which he would constantly jerk and twitch. Ugly would have been a dark gray tabby striped-type, except for the sores covering his head, neck, and even his shoulders with thick, yellowing scabs. Every time someone saw Ugly there was the same reaction. “That’s one UGLY cat!!” All the children were warned not to touch him, the adults threw rocks at him, hosed him down, squirted him when he tried to come in their homes, or shut his paws in the door when he would not leave. Ugly always had the same reaction. If you turned the hose on him, he would stand there, getting soaked until you gave up and quit. If you threw things at him, he would curl his lanky body around feet in forgiveness. Whenever he spied children, he would come running meowing frantically and bump his head against their hands, begging for their love. If ever someone picked him up he would immediately begin suckling on your shirt, earrings, whatever he could find. One day Ugly shared his love with the neighbor’s huskies. They did not respond kindly, and Ugly was badly mauled. From my apartment I could hear his screams, and I tried to rush to his aid. By the time I got to where he was laying, it was apparent Ugly’s sad life was almost at an end. Ugly lay in a wet circle, his back legs and lower back twisted grossly out of shape, a gaping tear in the white strip of fur that ran down his front. As I picked him up and tried to carry him home I could hear him wheezing and gasping, and could feel him struggling. “I must be hurting him terribly,” I thought. Then I felt a familiar tugging, sucking sensation on my ear. Ugly, in so much pain, suffering and obviously dying was trying to suckle my ear. I pulled him closer to me, and he bumped the palm of my hand with his head, then he turned his one golden eye towards me, and I could hear the distinct sound of purring. Even in the greatest pain, that ugly battled scarred cat was asking only for a little affection, perhaps some compassion. At that moment I thought Ugly was the most beautiful, loving creature I had ever seen. Never once did he try to bite or scratch me, or even try to get away from me, or struggle in any way. Ugly just looked up at me completely trusting in me to relieve his pain. Ugly died in my arms before I could get inside, but I sat and held him for a long time afterwards, thinking about how one scarred, deformed little stray could so alter my opinion about what it means to have true pureness of spirit, to love so totally and truly. Ugly taught me more about giving and compassion than a thousand books, lectures, or talk show specials ever could, and for that I will always be thankful. He had been scarred on the outside, but I was scarred on the inside, and it was time for me to move on and learn to love truly and deeply. It was time to give my all to those I cared for. Many people want to be richer, more successful, well liked, beautiful, but for me, I will always try to be like Ugly.

This story is truly appealing to my heart. I believe that no one can be cruel to others based on their appearance. Yes, Ugly is not pleasant to look at..So, what?? Can we treat it cruelly? Ugly only wants love and care from human.Why can't we give them to it? To me, it's not ugly, people who bullied it to death is far uglier, or should I say, REALLY ugly? Credit goes to: http://www.inspirationalstories.com

My principle and beautiful destiny

How to defend your principles when almost everyone around you against them? It’s not easy to be answered. However, I believe that we must have strong determination in defending it. I always consider myself as different and special in my own very way. I must say that I’m really firm with my principles and beliefs until some people say I’m stubborn. But, of course, I don’t care about that. That’s me! I don’t have to change it. If people want to like me, let it because of who I am. I just want people to accept me as the way I am, shares what I have and doesn’t try to change me.

So, what are my principles? Among them is I won’t date a guy unless I want to marry him. I’ll only go out with a guy with the view of marriage. That’ll only happen when I’m ready to get married. I’m not like my friends who have boyfriend or girlfriend, got separated and find another one. I believe in true love and I absolutely against puppy love. To me, God has destined us to be with someone. Sooner or later, He will meet us up. So, what’s the point of being in love for a short while, got separated and then, find another boyfriend or girlfriend?

If it is just because everyone has partner and I must have one, then, it’s so silly. Having a partner is not for fun! It means giving commitment and being responsible for that person. You share what you’ve, understand, respect, support and of course, love each other. Therefore, I believe that we must choose our partner carefully. We also must set a certain standard for him or her. We must know what kind of person who suits us. We cannot just choose anybody. As the eldest, it makes my responsibility grows larger because my partner will not only be my husband but he’ll be a big brother to 7 of my little brothers and sisters. Thus, I can’t just choose anybody.

However, most of my friends don’t understand that. Some of them even said I’m heartless just because I never have boyfriend. Even my former roommate said, aren’t you worried you’ll get married at the old age and no one wants you? Hello! I’m only 22! I’ve long time to find someone. Besides, God has destined us with somebody even before we were born. So, why should we worry about such thing? He’ll meet us up in an unexpected way and that’s the beautiful destiny for us. Until that destiny comes to me, I’ll stick to my principle and wait for him. I believe that he’s somewhere out there waiting for me as I’m waiting for him.^^